HOW TO DEAL WITH DISAPPOINTMENT
Disappointment, we have all felt some sort of disappointment at one point or more times in our lives when things don't go our way, whether it is our relationships, careers, or opportunities. I must say disappointment is the least emotion I like to feel.
There is so much emotion and feelings into this word, that when we experience disappointment it drugs us down, into feeling other emotions as well, like anger, sadness frustration and so on.
Some people get used to being let down all the time, that they get used to it and settle for less, not only in relationships but in all aspects of life and feel undeserving of something they actually deserve.
1. NEVER SETTLE!!! Never allow yourself to settle in your job, relationship and just in life. Settling for less is what causes unhappiness in your life. You will NEVER be happy, just imagine going to the job you hate everyday for the rest of your life, or being in a relationship/marriage that is bad for you. To avoid settling you need to set your mentality on ''I DESERVE THE BEST'' I think when you know that you deserve the best and the world, you are bound to attract the best in your life, and also you will be willing to work and pursue the very best for yourself.
2. EXPECTATIONS!!!! I am very much guilty of this, as human beings we tend to expect a lot from people and it is the perfect portion for disappointment. But then I ask myself again, 'how can we live in this world without expectations''? One thing is us expecting this and that from someone, but how can we be sure the other party holds up their end of the deal? With that I have learnt that people will let you down in this world, promises will be broken. You have to learn to expect less from people and expect more of yourself. In that way it is less hurtful to disappoint yourself than have people disappoint you. We all know with disappointment from others, follows trust and loyalty and then what are we left with?
3. ACCEPTANCE!!! Boy oh boy who doesn't think acceptance is the hardest pill to swallow. Acceptance doesn't come easy, its usually associated with denial. We all at one point have said something like '' how can he/she do this to me'' Though denial is not a bad thing as it is the first step in the coping cycle. Whether it is a relationship or a career opportunity that did not go according to your way, it is important to accept the situation as it is, leave it in the past, dust yourself off and try again.
4. LAUGH AT YOURSELF!! You feel disappointed when your expectations don't match your outcome. You have to let it go as quickly as possible, there is no point in continuing to feel these negative emotions. It has already happened, it is in the past. As they say yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is never guaranteed, so live in the moment. Mistakes are bound to happen we can only learn from them. The funny thing is the things we worry about today won't even matter in a few months. One way to dealing with disappoint is to laugh at yourself, find humor in your imperfections, laugh at your mistakes instead of being angry at yourself. Life is too short to be sad, we are here to make mistakes and learn.. LIVE OUT LOUD